“I was appreciated and admired only for what I was to him, not for who I was and who I might be in my own right, and that (unconsciously) created a raging battle within me. I had become dependant on his attention. It makes me cringe just to think of it. I have to face very uncomfortable places in myself to own this. The bottom line is he showed up all of the places I already felt valueless and insignificant.”
Resurrecting the Innocent Heart.
I have memories of my early childhood. One was when I wandered into the neighbour’s garden.. I must have been very young because I discovered a plot of different coloured daisies that towered way above me. I was mesmerized and enchanted by such beauty and wonder. In my child’s heart, I had found a magical…
The Great Divide – A Tantric Perspective
Men and boys grow up in our culture walking on eggshells. The idea that masculinity is something to fear permeates the psyches of men and women alike. To tend toward aggression, violence, domination, and exploitation, is almost expected of men. We expect them to be guilty before proven innocent. We expect them to ‘step up’ and ‘man up’. The effect of these unspoken assumptions is a heavy burden to bear.
Originally posted on Joyous Woman! with Sukhvinder Sircar:
She’s redefining Deep Defiance. It comes from her roots going deep into the earth. There are too many happenings in her world wanting to break her down. Her rootedness makes her unshakable. That is defiance enough. It does not necessarily show up as a fist in the…
Honoring the Divine Masculine ~ Ann O’Brien
One day this past summer I was meditating out in my garden and came across the mass-held belief that says, “Masculine energy is unsafe.” Then it continued to include: “Feminine energy is unsafe” and consequently, “Life is unsafe.”I had a huge ah-ha about why it feels to me like people are so shut down, about…
Breaking the Cycle of Abuse ~ Avalon Darnesh
Holy shit. I’m having a smack in the face at the insanely unacceptable levels of abuse that women still suffer on our planet. I’m not finger pointing at men, because the whole culture is totally screwed up and it’s a domino effect. Those men were raised by women, and if those women were in their…
Dear Men, There may be some empathy and healing for humanity to access when we realise that women not only feel their individual pain but also are affected by the collective feminine energy field… Depending on a woman’s sensitivity and the place in her cycle, her receptivity and how she is affected by this changes….
Diving for Pearls
The downside to the transcendence paradigm is that it all too often does not acknowledge the wholeness of the exquisite blessing that is our humanity. In fact, if we are not careful it can reinforce the damaging rift between the thinking and feeling parts of us. so that we end up (unconsciously) judging, editing, marginalising or suppressing our true urges and feelings (essentially the feminine aspect of our being)… sound familiar? Breathe into that for a bit…
False Idols and True Grit
There is a woman I know who really pushes my buttons, she looks like Barbie, which in itself is neither here nor there… It’s just the way she exploits her generic beauty assuming it automatically elevates her to the status of ‘goddess’ and qualifies her to be a representative of divine feminine ‘spirituality… I’ve embarked…
She is… the hungry tension in the string that calls the bow. Fertile, open spaces, Beckoning you home Succumbing to Her rhythm… The power of Her flow. Dancing in the twilight Between broken and composed.
Trauma, Victimhood and Denial
Recently, I read a post by a popular spiritual leader where he picks apart and condemns the new age movement and accuses its exponents of judgement, spiritual bypassing and denial of victimhood. While I haven’t been much of a fan of the new-age movement myself, I feel compelled to speak up (as I do) about a…
Western Women Will Save The World?
It’s not uncommon for me to end up in earnest dialogues women who describe themselves as feminists. I was once accused of having a ‘First World’ perspective and that my statements were basically invalid as many women don’t have the luxury of education and (relative) freedom of speech to indulge in the ‘frivolous’ pursuit of embodying femininity. (If frivolous is how they see their femininity.. then what is feminism actually?). I replied that “this simple truth highlighted our OBLIGATION (as western women) to use our place of ‘privilege’ to embody and honor feminine wisdom and to SPEAK OUT because we are the ones that have the freedom and wherewithal to do so!”