There may be some empathy and healing for humanity to access when we realise that women not only feel their individual pain but also are affected by the collective feminine energy field…
Depending on a woman’s sensitivity and the place in her cycle, her receptivity and how she is affected by this changes.
The marginalization and oppression of the feminine has become internalized in most women… in other words, our own mental patterning has become a ‘patriarchal dictatorship’. The feeling feedback natural to the feminine, is generally suppressed and is experienced by many women as emotional pain through our own judgment of it as irrelevant. In fact, it has become part of our ‘pain-body’1, along with the accumulated pain suffered by women over millennia through controlled childbirth, rape, slavery, torture, and violent death… their own or their children or beloved men etc.
This sheds a bit more light on why women can be perceived as ‘mad’ and why they may actually be justified in feeling ‘fucking furious’. It is tragic that this is not understood better by women themselves and that unfortunately a lot of the anguish is projected onto innocent men unconsciously and unfairly.
There are many of us who are ashamed and fearful of our own feminine attributes (men included).
Many of us perceive these qualities as weakness… leaving us feeling vulnerable and utterly powerless. In fact, for many of us, denying our feminine qualities has literally become a matter of survival. This is the opposite of the truth.
We need only look at the feminist movement to see that many women felt they had no choice but to adopt masculine qualities in order to ‘fight’ to be considered worthy of the same freedom of choice and influence as men. The impact of this abandonment of the feminine gifts of sensing, non-linear intuition, connection and invitational leadership on humanity as a whole is devastating.
I don’t need to point out that we as a species and our planet are in crisis.
I hear many men justifiably expressing anger and dismay over what appears to be an attacking and shaming assault by some women on men collectively. There has certainly been much damage caused on psychological and emotional levels by confusing messages about what it is to be a man and how to relate to women. Some men battle relentlessly to work out what the hell makes a woman happy… Others have just given up or worse are harboring resentment and bitterness towards women in general.
What if you allow your perspective to shift a little? What if you were to consider that this projection of pain onto you is actually not personal to you and on some level very valid and actually worthy of your compassion? What if at those times you feel compelled to withdraw or to fight back… are the very times you could stay present and still for the women to unfold her deeper expression?
Dear Men… I am on my knees with sincere regret and much empathy for your pain. Please know that this is a direct result of our disconnect from the feminine and the very reason why we NEED YOU more than ever!! We need your understanding, support and presence. We need you to trust that even though our seemingly chaotic and irrational expression may not make logical sense that there is a very valid reason for its presence. That there is a deep well of wisdom waiting to be tapped if only you can hold still and solid enough for us to trust that we can surrender.
There are many women who are awakening to the collectively healing value of restoring their connection to the feeling realm at this time but there are still many who struggle to be with the pain that must be transformed as we traverse this terrain. Even if a woman is aware and actively honoring her feeling reality, it takes enormous amounts of courage and presence to face this at times, terrifying and excruciating experience.
We need you to stand by our side… we need your strength and resilience … your courage and steadfastness. To do this you will have to make peace with your own feminine aspect. This is a path that requires courage, self-reflection, dedication and focus but the results will be well worth it.
Let’s work together work together to bring this world into harmony and balance because frankly we cannot afford to waste another moment in conflict..
- Pain Body: a term coined by Eckhart Tolle to describe the phenomena of unfelt and unexpressed pain or avoidance of full experience that is held in the human energy system.
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